<!DOCTYPE html>
<!-- ========================================== kroc camen of camen design ============================================= -->
<title>writing · YOU Are Enough</title>
<link rel="stylesheet" type="text/css" href="/design/design.css" />
<meta name="viewport" content="width=device-width, maximum-scale=1.0, user-scalable=no" />
<link rel="alternate" type="application/rss+xml" href="/writing/rss" title="Just writing" />
<link rel="canonical" href="/writing/eve-you-are-enough" />
<!-- =================================================================================================================== -->
<header>
	<h1><a href="/" rel="index">
		Camen Design
	</a></h1>
	<nav><ul>
		<li><a href="/">all</a></li>
		<li><a href="/projects">projects</a></li>
		<li><a href="http://forum.camendesign.com">forum</a></li>
	</ul><ul>
		<li><a href="/quote/">quote</a></li>
		<li><a href="/writing/" rel="tag">writing</a></li>
		<li><a href="/blog/">blog</a></li>
		<li><a href="/photo/">photo</a></li>
		<li><a href="/code/">code</a></li>
		<li><a href="/art/">art</a></li>
		<li><a href="/link/">link</a></li>
		<li><a href="/poem/">poem</a></li>
		<li><a href="/audio/">audio</a></li>
	</ul><ul>
		<li><a href="/web-dev/">web-dev</a></li>
		<li><a href="/annoyances/">annoyances</a></li>
		<li><a href="/eve/">eve</a></li>
		<li><a href="/code-is-art/">code-is-art</a></li>
		<li><a href="/inspiration/">inspiration</a></li>
		<li><a href="/windows/">windows</a></li>
		<li><a href="/gift/">gift</a></li>
		<li><a href="/gaming/">gaming</a></li>
		<li><a href="/mac/">mac</a></li>
		<li><a href="/osnews/">osnews</a></li>
		<li><a href="/c64/">c64</a></li>
		<li><a href="/linux/">linux</a></li>
	</ul>
	<a rel="previous" href="/writing/eve-who-would-have-thought">
		older article →
	</a><a rel="next" href="/writing/eve-things-are-clicking-into-place-nicely">
		← newer article
	</a></nav>
</header>
<!-- =================================================================================================================== -->
<article><header>
	<!-- date published or updated -->
	<time pubdate datetime="2013-02-19T10:00:00+00:00">
		<sup>10:00<abbr>am</abbr> • 2013</sup>
		<abbr title="February">Feb</abbr> 19
	</time>
	<!-- categories -->
	<ul>
		<li><a href="/writing/eve-you-are-enough" rel="bookmark tag">writing</a></li>
		<li><a href="/eve/eve-you-are-enough">eve</a></li>
	</ul>
	<!-- licence -->
	<small>
		<abbr title="copyright">©</abbr>
		copyright
	</small>
</header>
<!-- ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ -->
<p>
	The following was written by my wife Eve and republished here due to Posterous shutting down.
</p>
<section>
<h1>YOU Are Enough</h1>
<p>
	<strong>Why is it that some people are dwarfed and thwarted by self-doubt?</strong> More times than not, these are
	people who are beautiful, inside and out, with amazing creative minds, with skills beyond those of a mere mortal.
	And then you get people who don’t register on my radar, and they are the happiest, most self-confident people in
	the world, without a care in the world.
</p><p>
	I have recently started dating again, after coming out of a long-term relationship. Putting yourself out there again
	is one scary experience. Especially if you are anything like me, where at your best you doubt the existence of the
	possibility that anyone may be honestly interested in you; and at your worst you hate your deepest guts. Where you
	are swayed between being a happy person with no care in the world and being the person who shoulders all of the
	world’s problems.
</p><p>
	To cut a long story short, I met two men at around the same time. The first one, a 37-year-old van driver. Super
	confident, happy with himself, happy with his life. I poked and prodded for about a week, in my vain desire to find
	the ‘hidden layer’ to him. Needless to say, I never found one. He doesn’t like reading books, never speaks
	about music, is not creative, the one and only thing that makes him happy is to be with a pretty girl, he has no
	ambition for his job or life, doesn’t care about much more beyond himself (the one thing he was interested in
	about me was whether I shave down below). He told me I was lucky to have met him. <samp>o.O</samp>
</p><p>
	I envy him. I would be a happier person if I could just accept life for what it is, and enjoy the simple pleasures
	in life. I would also most likely end up killing myself or dying of boredom. You know that things are not going well
	when you are hoping the guy will turn out to be a footie fanatic. At least then he’d be passionate about
	SOMETHING.
</p><p>
	The second guy was a 26-year-old geeky-type. A guy who produces artwork so mind-boggling, understands concepts that
	I have never even contemplated, cares deeply for people around him. He couldn’t be boring if he tried. He has
	varied interests, can hold a meaningful conversation without a problem. A guy with a mind so quirky that it makes me
	smile whenever I think about it. Ask him any question about computers and he will most likely have the answer. He
	will gladly help anyone with their computer problems, without charging them for the help (despite this being his
	job), and then will look at me as if it was inconceivable when I ask him why he doesn’t charge, with the disarming
	reply ’why would I charge, it didn’t cost me anything' (yes, I felt my heart melt then). He cares about what I
	think or how I live my life. And yet this man is convinced he isn’t doing enough. He has this notion of somehow
	having to be someone else to spark a girl’s interest in him. Because to him, just being himself doesn’t seem
	like enough.
</p><p>
	I wonder if this is a reflection on females or on the society as a whole. Have we (women/people) really got so bad
	that we don’t see past appearances/possessions/status anymore? How is it that people with beautiful minds will sit
	at home, thinking they have nothing to offer a potential partner?
</p><p>
	Maybe it is me. Maybe I am ‘wired wrong’. Maybe my values are wrong — they certainly don’t seem to be
	fitting in with today’s world’s. And maybe I don’t care. Maybe (just maybe) somewhere deep down I love the way
	I am. I don’t see why I should change just so someone likes me. Surely if I change for someone, then I am not
	‘me’ anymore. And if we lose our ‘true selves’, then what are we left with? An empty shell that will break
	at the first sight of a storm.
</p><p>
	What is it that makes you you? Treasure it because it is all you’ll have left one day. Treasure it because it is
	beautiful. It is enough. YOU are enough.
</p>
</section>
<!-- ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ -->
</article>
<footer>
	<nav><a href="http://forum.camendesign.com">‹ Discuss this in the Forum ›</a></nav>
		
	<a href="mailto:kroc@camendesign.com">kroc@camendesign.com</a>
	<nav>view-source:
		<a href="/writing/eve-you-are-enough.rem">Rem</a> •
		<a href="/writing/eve-you-are-enough.html">HTML</a> •
		<a href="/design/">CSS</a> •
		<a href="/.system/">PHP</a> •
		<a href="/.htaccess">.htaccess</a>
	</nav>
	<form method="get" action="https://duckduckgo.com">
		<input type="hidden" name="sites" value="camendesign.com" />
		<input type="search" name="q" placeholder="search…" />
		<input type="submit" value="Go" />
	</form>
</footer>
<!-- =================================================================================================== code is art === -->